Measuring Balance

To The Woman

To the woman fighting for her dream,

the woman striving for happiness and contentment;

To the mom searching for a purpose,

and the girl still grappling with what it means to be a woman;

To the ones who feel guilty and less than,

As well as the ones who are accomplished and proud;

To the woman who’s banging so hard at a door that refuses to open,

And the woman whose motivation is driven by overcoming labels from her past;

To the woman who spends so much time caring for others that she forgoes herself,

and the one who’s in charge, yet terrified of vulnerability;

To the woman who feels like she’s in this alone, wondering who will come to help;

To the one who has tried out several jobs and callings only to be left wanting;

To the apathetic and lethargic, staying put from fear of failure and rejection;

To the one whose determination and self will can run a thousand marathons, companies and households,

To the woman who is just so tired and ready for Jesus to come back;

To the critical one, constantly looking at others, riddled with comparison;

To the woman who loathes her cynicism but gets rewarded for it;

To the woman who hates the standard yet kills herself daily to achieve it,

To the one hiding an addiction to food, drug, sex, shopping or approval;

To the woman who desires a husband,

And the one who is terrified of men and feels safer with another woman;

To the woman who loves her babies and feeds them everything organic,

And the one who loves her babies and feeds them at convenient stores;

To the woman who feels like she must choose motherhood or career,

To the woman who judges the other woman for her choice;

To every woman who is still wondering how to balance it all: dreams, career, marriage, children, fears and faith.

This is for you right here. Right now.


Balance.

Sometimes, this word comes like a breath of Spring... an invitation to even out the path in front of me. In other moments, the concept of “balance” strikes fear into my heart.

Lately, I’ve been doing a lot of thinking, talking, and researching about the idea of achieving balance. I kept wanting God’s direction and His wisdom...a specific definition or a framework to live by. I kept hearing the Lord say, “Dig deeper!” What I uncovered was something I already knew but wasn’t fully grasping fully:

We were created to do “good works”, to advance the Gospel, to love our families well, to live in the world but not of it, to invest in our communities, to worship with other believers. The problem comes when we see these “good works” as something to achieve rather than expressions of God in us. When we separate our expressions of God from God himself, we begin to see our relationships and responsibilities like a heavy yoke: obligatory and weighty.

Essentially, when I understand all of my responsibilities and relationships as outward extensions of my own life, they become things I place on a scale to measure. I'm then left trying to keep them all suspended, balancing them on my body in the best way I know how.

To achieve the fallacy of outward balance, we're forced to compare value: kids, career, ministry, nutrition, etc. But the truth is, my kids will never weigh as much as a job….and yet my job is an extension of my calling. And so is my calling of greater value than my kids? If my miss my daughter’s classroom party, am I devaluing her completely? Let the insanity stop! Let’s crush this scale that has morphed into a measuring stick of achievement!

God is not asking us to achieve a standard of performance. Rather, he calls us to be stewards of an internal reality with outward expressions. Rather than achieving physical balance on any scale, the Scriptures speak to us in terms of surrender: “Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes? Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life?” (Matthew 6:25-27)

God is not asking us to weigh our achievements or our responsibilities, He is asking us to to hold them out freely and surrender them to His Kingdom order. What are you trying to achieve that God is asking you to hold? Are you experiencing the broad place of liberty He has for you? Is there something you are holding that was not portioned by God? Are you seeking first the His Kingdom?

Today, I invite you to crush the scale, tear up the measuring stick, and run in the liberty God has given to us!  Let’s hold well what we’ve been portioned, knowing our Father gives good gifts to His children.